Lasting Impact of Mother’s Day: Reflections on Maternal Relationships and Last Wishes

This Mother’s Day marks a poignant moment for Kenneth L. Hardin, as he reflects on the absence of his biological mother since her passing shortly after Thanksgiving. Unlike the traditional grand gestures of affection on Mother’s Day, Hardin’s relationship with his mother was complex, leading him to question the merit of one day’s token displays of love.

Hardin’s decision not to attend his mother’s funeral stemmed from his deep connection with her during her final moments, where he bid her a heartfelt goodbye as she slipped away. The discrepancy between his mother’s desire for a private exit and the family’s public mourning highlighted the clash between personal wishes and external expectations.

Reminiscing on past experiences, Hardin recalls the disregard for his grandmother’s last wishes at Soldier’s Memorial AME Zion, emphasizing the importance of honoring the deceased’s requests over familial desires. The incident serves as a reminder of the need for respecting and upholding the final wishes of loved ones, even in the face of opposition.

Throughout his life, Hardin found maternal figures in his mother-in-law, Vera Wiggins, and his aunt, «Aunt-Mama» Catherine Stewart, who embraced him as a surrogate son. Their unconditional love and guidance echo a communal parenting approach that extends care beyond biological ties, enriching his life with their unwavering support.

As Mother’s Day approaches, Hardin expresses gratitude for the enduring presence of these nurturing women in his life, who exemplify the essence of parental pride and affection. Rather than material gestures, he chooses to convey his love and appreciation to them, recognizing the profound impact of genuine maternal relationships.