Carson Daly and Wife Siri on the Benefits of ‘Sleep Divorce’

Carson Daly, the well-known host of NBC‘s TODAY show, has recently opened up about a unique aspect of his marital life: he and his wife, Siri, sleep in separate beds. This practice, often referred to as a ‘sleep divorce,’ has been a topic of discussion for many couples facing similar sleep-related issues.

Daly shared his experience on TODAY, explaining that the decision to sleep apart was made during Siri’s pregnancy with their fourth child. He humorously mentioned being “served my sleep-divorce papers a few years ago,” and emphasized that it has been beneficial for both of them. “It’s the best thing that ever happened to us. We both, admittedly, slept better apart,” he said[2].

The couple’s decision was influenced by practical considerations, including Daly’s sleep apnea and the discomfort Siri experienced during her pregnancy. “We’re both pretty good-sized humans and it just wasn’t really working when she was in her third trimester,” Daly explained. This arrangement has helped them avoid the common issues many couples face, such as snoring, battles for sheets, and differing circadian rhythms[2].

Behavioral and social scientist Wendy M. Troxel Ph.D. supports the idea that sleeping apart can be beneficial for some couples. According to Troxel, research shows that people often sleep worse with a partner, especially if the partner snores. Despite this, many people prioritize societal expectations of sleeping together over their actual sleep quality. Troxel argues that the most important thing is for both partners to get a good night’s sleep, whether that means sleeping together or apart[2].

The Dalys’ admission has been a relief to many couples who struggle with similar issues, highlighting that a ‘sleep divorce’ does not necessarily indicate a lack of intimacy or a failing relationship. Instead, it can be a practical solution to ensure better sleep and overall well-being for both partners.