Reflections on the Theme of ‘Mattering’ in Popular Culture

On the weekend, Timothy A Carey, Ph.D., attended a movie screening with his wife and son to view the highly anticipated new Deadpool and Wolverine film. As an admirer of both Ryan Reynolds and Hugh Jackman, Carey expressed confidence that he would enjoy the film; however, the final outcome exceeded his expectations. He described the movie as “sensational,” highlighting a particularly impactful scene at the movie’s conclusion.

In the closing narration, delivered by the character Wade Wilson, known famously as Deadpool, the line “Everyone wants to matter” struck a profound chord with Carey. These words prompted him to reflect deeply on their significance, questioning the universal desire to matter, and contemplating whether this desire is an innate human trait or a learned behavior.

Carey mused over the silence surrounding the topic of ‘mattering’ in everyday conversations, considering whether it remains unspoken because it isn’t equally important to everyone or because people prioritize different spheres of influence where they wish to matter. For some, family may hold the utmost importance, while others may seek validation through professional achievements or social media presence.

The notion of ‘mattering’ introduces a paradox, noted by Carey, reminiscent of themes explored in his co-authored work, “Controlling People: The paradoxical nature of being human” (Marken & Carey, 2015). His reflections suggest that the desire to matter is largely influenced by external perceptions, meaning individuals often calibrate their behaviors to meet the expectations of those they wish to impress or satisfy.

A poignant question raised by Carey asks whether it is feasible to derive satisfaction from mattering solely to oneself, independent of outside acknowledgment. Could self-satisfaction and a sense of personal contentment grant an individual a fulfilling sense of mattering?

As Carey continues to explore these nuanced ideas, he entertains the potential benefit of starting open dialogues about ‘mattering’ in personal and communal contexts — discussions he coins “matter chatters.” Through these conversations, Carey hopes to unravel the complexities surrounding how ‘mattering’ influences personal and collective well-being.